“You’re making a big deal out of nothing”: Man lies about details of his bachelor trip to his girlfriend, she promptly breaks up with him when he refuses to take responsibility

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 7, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. In this day and age, lying is just as bad as actually committing infidelity, or anything similar to it. There's really no excuse to lie to your partner, and they have every right to be more than upset if you do. The enumeration of excuses is endless; they didn't want to hurt you, they wanted to protect you, they thought you'd be upset. But at the end of the day, it's the most immature option to lie to your partner. It only stimulates, perpetuates, and instigates insecurity and trust issues in the partner and the entire relationship. Protecting your partner would be to tell them the truth, and if there's something upsetting about the situation, then hiding it from them will only make matters worse. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a woman whose boyfriend goes on a bachelor trip. She has one simple rule, which is to just fill her in on remote details of what he's doing, and if he's with girls or not. She doesn't want him glued to his phone, just basic communication and transparency. But apparently that was asking too much, and he betrayed her trust.

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    AITH for breaking up with my boyfriend because he went on a bachelor’s trip and spent all day with girls without telling me?

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    EDIT: I want to clarify this bc everyone seems to think I wanted to be updated non stop. That isn't the case at all and I fully expected him to take hours to respond to me! It's the fact that we had set a boundary to let me know if he did meet up with girls, avoided the
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  • If there's one thing that's absolutely crucial for a relationship, it's honesty, trust, and communication. The fact that he not only lied to her, but that he also is shutting down her feelings about his actions is the worst case scenario. She's right to break up with him, he's not trustworthy. 

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    question when I asked him bc his behavior was extremely weird, and chose not to say anything even when he was free.
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    I (24f) broke up with my boyfriend (30m) over something that happened during his bachelor's trip. Before he left, we had a conversation about open communication, especially since I knew he would be talking to women and possibly partying. I
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    told him I just wanted to be kept in the loop if he was heading out to clubs or hanging out with girls. I wasn't expecting him to be glued to his phone 24/7, just basic updates.
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    The first night, everything went as planned. They went to dinner and the club, and he kept in touch with me, which I appreciated. But then, the next day, they went to a sandbar, and he started taking hours to respond to me. His replies were short, and when I asked if there were any girls with
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    them, he ignored that part completely. Two hours went by with no response, and I saw he was back at the Airbnb. He said he was in the pool but didn't give much else.
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    Later that night, when we resumed talking, I asked again if there were girls there, and he finally admitted that he spent the whole day with a group of bachelor girls he met at the bar, and they all went back to the Airbnb to swim. I told him I was upset because he had all day to
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    tell me, and I shouldn't have had to ask. He brushed it off, saying I was being crazy and controlling for making a big deal out of nothing.
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    The more I tried to explain that it wasn't about him hanging out with girls, but about the lack of communication and transparency, the more he attacked me, calling me paranoid. At that point, I ended things right there.
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    Now, I'm questioning if I was too controlling or if I had a right to be upset. We had agreed on certain boundaries before he left, and I felt like he completely disregarded them. AITH?
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    Sea-Leg-339 13h ago Honestly the idea of bachelor and bachelorette trips are so weird to me. The whole partying and clubbing to enjoy your last night of "freedom".
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    RiseElectronic3085 • 16h ago You both set a boundary and an understanding before he left that he agreed to and fully acknowledged. He deflected, easily betrayed the boundary/trust, and avoided telling you. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
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    It's a good thing you guys ended. SUCH a red flag OP. ΝΤΑ
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    straylines 11h ago We don't know enough about you or your ex to answer this. How many of these statements match would you agree are true about your ex?
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    He respects women he's not related to. He's disgusted by cheating no matter the gender of the cheater. His friends respect women.
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    His friends do NOT cheat. His actions and words/values generally match. He would dump a friend who cheated or did something immoral.
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    If you mostly answered yes, you may be insecure. If you answered no, find someone else or be single.
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    kkuhn130 15h ago • I never understand why couples that have little trust in each other stay together. If I couldn't trust my partner to go on a girls trip with her friends without needing a play by play throughout the day, I wouldn't be with her. You either trust him or you don't.
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    JellyfishSolid2216 • 12h ago INFO: how much time were you expecting him to spend. on the phone with you?
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    Federal_Training_... 14h ago Oh no you definitely did the right thing lol he's at the very least being shady
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